But it turns out that my experiences doing this work all these years confirm that framing and understanding the situation through that lens, and truly taking that high road, has multiple unintended, positive consequences beyond just being seen by others to be doing the right thing.
It helps us concentrate better and see more clearly. And yes, it does immediately rule out some unworthy options that were doomed to fail anyway. It also helps with sorting out what’s really important from what isn’t. Plus, it stops some problems almost in their tracks, because at least you’re no longer "churning" that problem.
Why "The High Road"?
“Take the high road” is a phrase everyone's heard and instinctively sort of “gets,” but for many people it’s just not a realistic way to deal with how modern life actually works. It can seem too idealistic, or too soft, but that's mostly because we're being driven by the apparent need to react right away, and to be seen to be able to do whatever it takes to succeed at whatever is coming toward us.
It’s not about becoming a saint, it’s more about truly figuring out what works, what’s best for most of the people involved - including yourself. You’re not pretending to be someone else; you’re moving toward actually being your own best, most effective self.